Ramblings, thoughts, and stories and tall tales from the edge of the Foster/Adopt Dad zone
How we met and how God has moved us thoughout our marriage.
The story of seeing first hand a need that we couldn’t ignore.
We’ve had some ups and downs like any married couple and here are just a few.
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Michelle P.
Welcome to their chaotic life.
Willie W.
First, I’ll have to admit that fostering was not easy but I am glad that is the direction that we followed. That is because it brought us and you together Shep. From your birth to 2.5 months you had lost your voice in the world. That was because your bio family didn’t feed or love…
Family and friends, Today is a truly special day as we gather here to celebrate the start of a beautiful journey. It is a day filled with joy, laughter, and the promise of a beautiful future together. As Syd’s Dad it is an honor for me to stand before you and share a few words…
Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow. So, back in 2005 I was in the medical field and getting ready to test for my registry exam in vascular ultrasound. I really loved helping others in the medical field but I really got fed up with the mess that…
The main thing that makes me nervous is a failure to provide for my family. I put them in three buckets.
Now, it’s like drinking from a fire hydrant in terms of learning child development and trust based relational instruction.
Describe a positive thing a family member has done for you.
“Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.”…
The “good morning” from my toddler: SG is so animated in her expressions and she will scream, “Good morning Daddy” and that just ramps up my mood and allows confirmation of the journey we have taken through foster care and adoption. I’m truly blessed.
Hey friends! Today, I want to talk about something that has been such a special part of my life – stroller runs with my children. When we started fostering, I would take them on runs in their stroller and it quickly became one of my favorite ways to bond with them. Not only is it…
James 1:27 says, “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.”
Foster care and adoption has really made me a better disciple of Jesus, husband, and ultimately a better father.
Not understanding the need for foster care and adoption in society and how they could have helped address this issue.
First, foster parenting can be emotionally and mentally taxing.
In addition, adopting can be a very rewarding experience for the entire family. Adopted children often bring a new perspective and new love to the family. Adoptive parents often find that the joy of parenting is even greater when they are raising a child who they have chosen to love and care for.
Since we have been fostering and adopting, I can see how much I’ve grown and continue to grow as a husband and dad.
Parents who foster and who have adopted need encouragement and someone to believe in their mission and family
I had these archetypes in my life as I grew up it was just that I didn’t realize them or even comprehend them.
The idea that once they are adopted and you love on them then all of their past traumas and neglect will just go “poof”. Such thinking is what leads to frustration for those parents who do love on them with such a agape love that it hurts and yet issues pop up and happen.
hindsight biasthe tendency, after an event has occurred, to overestimate the extent to which the outcome could have been foreseen. Hindsight bias stems from (a) cognitive inputs—people selectively recall information consistent with what they now know to be true; (b) metacognitive inputs—people may misattribute their ease of understanding an outcome to its assumed prior likelihood;…
We never started fostering to adopt, adoption was the end to the means of abandonment due to the deep addictions and other obstacles on the road to reunification.
I’ve got to keep the streak alive.
But what we really see in most things from the world of online friends is the best side, not the struggle, or what we see is a facade put up to mask the hurt and pain or to create an illusion of our society’s perception of success.
I’ll tell you that as a man I am and have been the last to ask for help when I need it most. Now, I do ask for help from Carla, my wife but I’m talking about the kind of help in dealing with things men go through. My wife will talk to her friends…
I know that we as humans can figure out how to embrace those who are vulnerable to abuse, neglect, sexual abuse, and more by using data that is spatially enabled to maybe figure out where communities and churches can be a lifeline to those who are hurting and possible prevent further escalation and end in…
You and Carla are “Special” people, if you mean by “special” you mean crazy. I agree.
The youngest TED speaker had a great TED talk about Children thriving and how the first 5 years are crucial to an overall development that will often set up their future as teenagers and adults.
child is different and each child is unique, especially in the eyes of our great and mighty God
While asking for prayer a little girl stood up and asked to be reunited to her mother.
My vision is for churches to send out fostering families from their churches like they do when they send out missionaries to new areas as church plants or countries to share the gospel.
What would it be like for you if you said yes to foster care?
So, imagine that the only time you as a toddler see any law enforcement is during times that they have been called to your home to address a complaint or some illegal activity. Also imagine that you are removed as a toddler and the blue lights or patrol cars are a reminder of that trauma,…
“There is a person, an 80-year old version of yourself, that is rooting hard for you to make good decisions today.”
Is it worth fostering? The answer is yes. I pray every day that God will allow me to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Give justice to the weak and the fatherless; maintain the right of the afflicted and the destitute. Psalm 82:3 ESV
Well, I’ve had a week or so to rest, repair and ruminate on last Saturday’s Ironman Gulf Coast 70.3 also known as the Gulf Roast. Going into the race I was very optimistic and enthusiastic about racing my 1st triathlon since 2014 and the longest distance to date. I arrived on Friday afternoon without…
One of these three things is going on in and around your life: you are either in a storm, coming out of a storm, or you are about to go through a storm. Storms are not bad in themselves, it is all in how we handle those situations. Romans 8:28 is a good reference.
I write this as I am trying to get over a respiratory issue that hit me late Thursday and Friday of last week. I’m not the one in the family that is prone to get sick, on the contrary, I am the one who doesn’t get sick. As I have been training for my first…
Mandalorians believe that children are the future of their culture, and they place a great deal of importance on raising them to become strong and honorable adults.